Thursday, 24 November 2011
Twenty rules of a lasting relationship
Unfortunately the magic formula doesn’t exist but we can help you with some remarkably effective advice to make your relationship last!
1. Be kind, caring and let love shine through your thoughts and actions.
2. Nobody is perfect so be tolerant of your partner’s “mistakes”.
3. Be aware that romantic love doesn’t last forever and is only a phase in your quest for true love.
4. Show you value positive things your partner says or does- no matter how insignificant they seem.
5. When your partner hurts you in some way, forgive. Hatred destroys while love makes things perfect.
6. Try not to hurt your partner. By hurting another person you also hurt yourself.
7. Ask your partner to write down what makes him or her feel loved and appreciated. You do the same and then exchange your lists. Make sure that every day, no matter what, you do at least one act of love from the list.
8. Be honest, gentle and affectionate all the time, because what goes around comes around.
9. Develop empathy for your partner and for yourself. Mean thoughts, words and actions are only defensive mechanisms, signs of our weakness and need for love.
10. Always think positively, encourage partner and help them when they’re in trouble.
11. Be yourself and never allow your partner to change you. When a partner tries to do so, this is no longer true love.
12. Read a good book about relationships here and there. You will understand the reasons behind your problems and learn new ways of creating a lasting relationship.
13. Try to understand your partner and his or her view of the world. It will deepen your relationship.
14. When you buy a present for your partner, remember that it doesn’t matter what you buy. Just give it from your heart.
15. Talk about all your problems. An honest and intimate conversation can work wonders and the problems may vanish one you’ve talked them through.
16. Don’t give up easily. Frustrations and conflicts are actually a psychological key to the growth and satisfaction of both of you.
17. Find out which of your actions have a negative influence on your relationship. If you want something to change, you need to change what you do.
18. Every morning make a decision that you won’t criticize your partner. If you fail, admit it and apologize.
19. Most relationships can be “saved”. Getting rid of your partner won’t solve your problems. If you can’t figure out a suitable solution by yourself, find professional help.
20. Learn to accept your partner as they are and not as you would like them to be.