Wednesday, 2 November 2011
Get her to an orgasm by stimulating her “deep” spot!
Forget the G-spot. Get her to an orgasm by stimulating her “deep” spot!
What is the deep spot and where is it situated?
Columnist and writer David Shade, author of many tips and guidebooks for men about how to become a good and generous lover, advises men to focus on the stimulation of the so-called deep spot for great and multiple orgasms in his book Give Your Woman Wild Screaming Orgasms. The deep spot is situated in the vagina, deeper than the G-spot and is, unlike the G-spot, smooth. This part of the vagina is technically called the cavity of the cervix and is situated about 3 and a quarter inches (8 centimetres) deep. You reach it by pushing your fingers very deeply inside the vagina. Take your rings off before the massage.
How to get to work on the deep spot?
Your partner should lie on her back and spread her legs with her knees bent. Put a lot of lubricant on your fingers and be careful not to damage the inside of her vagina with your fingernails. Slide your middle finger up the upper wall of the vagina deep inside her, with your palm facing upward. You’ll first feel the rough part, where the G-spot is also situated, then the smooth and slippery part, where you can also feel the cervix. Curl your fingertip into the ‘come hither’ position and press firmly against the upper wall of the vagina. Start massaging her deep spot firmly as if you were making the ‘come hither’ motion. Be careful that your hand is moist enough with the lubricant and that the massage is really firm. Your fingertip should literally become immersed into the soft walls of her vagina. You’ll feel the cervix as a small hole, but don’t touch it because this makes many women feel unpleasant.
The feeling of anal intercourse
You can also tackle the deep spot a bit differently. You can slide your middle finger into the vagina, with your palm facing downward. This time you’re sliding on the frontal wall of the vagina, past the rough part of the interior to the smooth part of the interior. Go as deeply as possible, but be careful not to be too aggressive with your knuckles. Do the ‘come hither’ notion with your fingertip again and push towards the lowest vertebrae of the spine. This will make her feel like she’s having anal intercourse, which really arouses some women and many will experience a very powerful orgasm.
Comparing the deep spot to the clitoris
During the first type of stimulation, the lower part of your palm can also press against the clitoris, which will bring an orgasm on even faster. The deep spot has one big advantage over the clitoris. When a woman has a clitoral orgasm, the button is so sensitive for some time that any attempt of stimulation can be unpleasant and painful. The deep spot has no such problems and can thus be stimulated again very quickly. You can also use two fingers for stimulation (the index and middle fingers) and keep their tips apart for about half an inch (one centimetre) when stimulating the vagina.
Always the same result: a powerful orgasm
Stimulating the deep spot brings the orgasm on relatively fast. The orgasm is intense and powerful, especially if you’re massaging the clitoris as well. Because the deep spot isn’t sensitive after the orgasm, you can start massaging it again after a short while and bring your partner to multiple orgasms very quickly. If the vagina is a bit painful the next day, this can be a sign that you pushed a bit too hard or it can be a consequence of the fact that you did this for the first time. The pain disappears already the following day and both men and women are thrilled by the pleasures the deep spot offers.